Wednesday, December 25, 2013

Importance Of Counseling Before Marriage

By Jeannie Chapman


Marriage is an institution that every individual looks forward to get into. It is always smooth when couples are in relationships as most of the behaviors are reserved at this time. After marriage, things that you did not see before and those that you probably would not like, start to spring up. For this reason and others, couples may find that they are not prepared to stay together. Quarrels and fights in the family are some of the reasons why couples should seek counseling before and after marriage instead of separating.

While in relationship, a couple should seek the services of a counselor for a number of reasons. For example, the man and the woman in the relationship are of different faith believes. A counselor will help them solve their difference and come up with a way forward of solving their marriage.

Two very young people who have decided to get married may not know the challenges of marriage. A counselor is able to take them through what to expect when they are married and their duties to ensure they are well informed and prepared for the lifelong commitment. There are special cases of couples or one partner who has had an abusive past. A counselor is able to help them get over past emotions and be able to trust and rely on each other.

Counselors also come in handy in situations when the relationship is a little different from the normal. In relationships where one person has psychological disorders or physical disabilities, the other person has to learn to accommodate their partners and their needs. This includes making sacrifices in their lifestyles and learning to put the needs of the other party and the marriage before theirs. It is also important for people who have health issues. In cases where one of the couple has a drug abuse problem, psychoanalysis is very necessary.

Once a relationship has advanced and the couple is engaged, the marriage is now almost inevitable. At this moment in some states premarital psychoanalysis is recommended by the law. The couple is counseled on family planning practices and how to relate to their partners. They are also enlightened on the legal practices and regulations that govern marriages.

The other type of psychoanalysis is therapy psychoanalysis. This deals in topics like substance abuse or a case where a partner could be having a certain bad behavior that they feel hard to let go. This type also covers emotional stress emanating from the past abuse. The counselor helps the couple solve these problems including medical concerns.

Specialized psychoanalysis covers a wide range of topics like finances which handles every topic about money that may arise in marriage. Parenting is under this category and it guides couples on what to expect when they decide to start bearing children and raising them. Career counseling deals with matters concerning career path and how to work together to ensure each partner is fulfilled in their career and the relationship. Family counseling is concerned with couples who already have kids from past relationships.

Engaged couples can seek help from churches or offices licensed to officiate marriage on how to get counseling. They are required to attend a number of specified sessions to finish their program. The most important thing is that at the end of the sessions they are well equipped to start the journey of marriage with a common goal.




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